After my husband and I got married in 2014, we started thinking about increasing our family; we were already a year in our marriage so we decided it was the right time to have children. I started thinking about what type of mother I would be, the cool mom, strict parent, in-between, or a Christian mom. I never extensively taught about what it mean to be Christian mom, assuming it would come natural to me since I am one. In my early years, I did grow up in a Christian household but my parents never talk about the sinful life, what it means to love God and living life in the spirit. Now, I am not blaming my parents, because maybe they did know how to talk about these things or even reach that part of spiritual growth, who knows, but I am a parent now, so no guilt trip.
The type of relationship I have with God now as a parent is different from when I was single and when I got married. I now begin to understand God from a parent point of view, which takes my relationship with him to a different level. When I became pregnant with our first son, Logan, I prayed for him more than me as expect, and yes for him to be healthy but most importantly I desired greatly for him to be saved, to be a man of God. I used to always say to him, be happy, healthy, and saved. With our second son Abraham, I became pregnant when my husband recently lost his brother and we were all over the place dealing with grief, but God knew we needed our Abraham, a man of faith. I tell you this story so that you know, my intention for my sons to be saved started in my womb.
To the world, parenting Christian style is not consider the best option, until something happen then we all need to pray for God to intervene. Don’t get me wrong they are some Christian parents who miss the whole point of being a believer so other believers gets the bad report for it, but I am here to remind you that not all have gone astray. To continue, I want my children to know God and have a relationship with him, but I won’t push that on them, instead I want them to know him they own way. Nonetheless, I still have to do my part as a mom by planting seeds, watering them and pray for a harvest. My hope is for my husband and I to be a living example for them, to show them the right way and also the wrong way. I am not saying to intentional fail so your children can see that you are not perfect, but instead to show them that if you fail, God is faithful and willing to forgive.
The way you portrait God to your children can influence the type of relationship they will have with him now and in the future. If your child see you not spending time with God and yet still claim to have a good relationship with him, then that’s how they will associate the meaning of a good relationship. They will grow up thinking, this type of relationship is acceptable to God. This is not to say your children are doomed based on your relationship with God but to say that you are shaping the idea of who God is in they mind. As a result, you are teaching your children that God can save you but not change you which is not the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Another example is, committing willful sin in front of your children especially when you have instruct them otherwise. Your children need to see the gospel is alive in you from your words to your action. I can still remember till this day that my grandmother is a woman of prayer, why, because she prayed with me every morning growing up, she prayed whenever we had problems and always reminded me that God is with me. My grandmother taught me the power of prayer, and eventhough I lost my way couple of time I always came back.
To conclude, God is so amazing that he will give everyone an opportunity to have a relationship with him regardless of the background on faith. Aren’t you glad that no one can take that away from you, I know I am. Children are a gift from God and he is trusting you to guide them. You can’t save your children but you can point them in the right direction. As scripture tell us faith comes by hearing the word of God from his messenger and the great news is you are your children first messenger. You are the one to tell them that the Christian life is not easy, to encourage them when they faith are weak and to remind them of the promises of God during the difficult time. My final note to you is, parenting is hard so this post it not to guilt you or criticize your parenting style but instead to reflect on our duties as believers who happens to be parent, so cast those negative thoughts out and be the best parent God has called you to be. Stay bless 😊 and don’t forget to comment, like and definitely share this blog.
Scripture for this post: Romans 10:17, 3 John 1:4, James 1:17 Genesis 1:28, Isaiah 54:13, James 1:22