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Church Hurt! Is it me, you or maybe all of us.

Church hurt can happen to anyone, from visitors, to long time members, part time members and seasonal members. It doesn’t discriminate and it can also prevent believers from continuing going to church. Because church hurt happens to the most of us, its important to know how and why church hurt happened? can it be prevented and how to deal with it.

Three reason why church hurt happens:

sin, leadership conflict, expectations.

As believers we are called to overcome sin and not allowing it to control our lives, however when we are not doing that personally as a body we will continue to hurt one another. Example, not dealing with our anger, jealousy, hatred, lust, and envious, can affect the whole body.

Jesus came to us not to be served but to serve us, to show us the way and what it really means to be a a leader. In my own experiences, I have seen leaders live a double life, look down on people and have a lack of compassion for others. But I have also seen some great leaders who genuinely care about people’s growth. So you see we have good leaders and also bad leaders. Therefore it is important to know and understand how to lead so you won’t be carelessly hurt the church family.

As believers, we have this expectation that church is nothing but roses and the only place that can’t hurt us. The church is filled with sinners who became saints through Jesus Christ. The reality is although we became saints, we sometime still have sinner tendencies. Therefore when you give that expectation to God because you realize only him who is good then you can began to bear with one another and give each other room to grow and flourish.

Can you prevent Church hurt?

Yes and No

As we are growing in Christ we can prevent church hurt to some extent but we can’t control church hurt. The reason is because, as much as you are allowing the Holy Spirit to work in you, the outside world is out of your control which is why we have to understand the real enemy. Scripture tell us in

Ephesians 6:12 New King James Version

12  For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of [a]the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places“.

So, the real enemy has never been each other but instead what is mention in scriptures. However, because we are not carrying our cross daily, and dying to self, it will be hard for us to realize the real enemy.

After we realize the real enemy then we need to armor up.

The Whole Armor of God, Ephesians 6:10-11

10Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. 11Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the [b]wiles of the devil

To conclude, church hurt can happen the first time you visit a friend church or at your home church. However, don’t let that stop you from attending church, growing with the body of Christ and being the best version of ourselves. I leave you with this verse

Galatians 6:2-10 New King James Version (NKJV)

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For each one shall bear his own load.

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Let’s talk about your bless life.

Family pictures, career updates, and falling in love, are some of social media post that indicate “I’m blessed”. And if you want everyone else to know it, don’t forget the hashtag #blessed. You know it’s true! Nothing scream I’m blessed better than these posts. Now, there’s nothing wrong with posting these type of content and if we are honest, we all have these post on our social media, however is it the same thing in the Bible when it comes to being blessed.

Things to think about!

Singleness or Marriage? who is more blessed?

 Do you think there’s a difference between world blessed and God’s blessed? Are they the same or a combination?

 🚨🛑 This post is not about criticizing what you have or don’t have but instead it is about gaining a new perspective on the word blessed according to scriptures.

First: nonbelievers also have families, careers, found love, and can also be a great help to the environment and community. So are these things the standard for a bless life?

Second: a blessed life has nothing to do with your status, married, or single, it also has nothing to do with how much stuff you have, the access you have or your accomplishments.

Let’s see what the bible says about who is blessed.

Matthew 5:

3“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

4Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

5Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

6Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.

7Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.

8Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

9Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.

10Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.

12Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets before you.

While meditating on these scripture I realize that a blessed life is about the transformation work God is doing in your life. He is molding you to be who has called you to be, a son and daughter and that’s how you know you are blessed.

Reflection

After reading these scriptures, how do you view your life?

do you still feel the same way about the word #blessed ?

Next time you measure how blessed you are based on what you have, think of Matthew 5.

Conclusion

When things are going well it’s easy to accept it as the blessed life. However, a biblical blessed life is not based on what you have or don’t have but instead it is based on the transformation God is doing in your life. Though it might seem impossible because of the difficulty in life, always remember, you are not without hope for God’s spirit is living inside of you.

In addition, Jesus didn’t have riches on earth or be the king the jews expected, but he did something beyond that, he did the father’s will. Isn’t that the ultimate goal, to be obedient to God’s will, to live a life pleasing to him. So let us never forget the true meaning of living a blessed life as we go on our day. I hope this post brough some clarity on what it means to have a blessed life. Please leave your thoughts. Stay blessed!

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Christianity and Minimalism

I consider myself pretty simple, and easy going, but after some self evaluation, I realize I may not have been as simple as I thought. I heard of minimalism sometime last year but I didn’t look into it until this past week or so and why not blog about it. But in all seriousness, based on the meaning of minimalism, I am curious to live that lifestyle or at least consider some of the ideas behind this movement. And of course as a believer I wanted to make sure this new lifestyle doesn’t contradict my faith and the bible. So let’s take a look on what it means to live a minimalist lifestyle and the ideas behind minimalism.

A minimalist is person who likes to keep things simple in all aspect of their lives. According to https://www.moneyunder30.com/minimalist-livingMinimalism is all about living with less. This includes less financial burdens such as debt and unnecessary expenses. … For many minimalists, the philosophy is about getting rid of excess stuff and living life based on experiences rather than worldly possessions.” Sound pretty cool right! I mean who does not want unnecessary expenses, and living a debt free life. So I did the next best thing, I YouTube it and I found tons of information on how to start my journey. Check it out!

My Journey so far….

 The first thing I realize is that, I did not have a simple lifestyle at home, my home was cluttered, started from my kitchen to my wardrobes, and other materialistic things. I realize I purchased things out of impulse, assuming that it would make me happy, or change what I feel inside, but it only left me with a crowded closet, and overload of unused products.

Jesus said in Matthew 6:19 to not store up treasure on earth, but instead to store your treasure in heaven, why? Because treasure on earth can be destroyed, gone and stolen by thieves. After some deep conversations with myself, I realize I was storing treasure on earth such as my clothes, shoes and beauty products. I mean who needs 10 pair of jeans, 3 sets of makeup brushes, and 6 beauty blenders.

All these things did not add anything in my life, but it did take away my money, space and time. Please understand I am not against of having a few pair of jeans or makeup because I do still have those things, but now I don’t put them on a high pedestal and I definitely prefer quality over quantity.

Contentment with less

Here comes that word again creeping at my door, making me question the type of relationship I have with my clothes, asking myself weird question but not so weird, like does my clothes own me or do I own them. Before the transition, I took a look at my closet, suddenly I’ve had anxiety and I didn’t even know I had anxiety 😅. My shoe rack was falling apart because it was overloaded with shoes and dresses that’s been on the hanger for too long.

My impulsive shopping and my ” self-care” routine was the reason behind these things mention above. My routine decisions led me to become a hoarder, lover of unnecessary things and unhappy. As I decluttered my closet, I am reminded that I brought nothing into this world, and I will leave with nothing so if I have food and clothing, I should be content with that.  Well, you might say, there’s nothing wrong with having things, which is true but when your value is based on having things and these things becomes your comfort and happiness then there’s a problem.

Minimalism is not Christianity

The Bible does not mention minimalism but it does emphasis on living a simple and full life. Jesus spoke on people selling their possessions, to give to the poor and to follow him. One can argue, I don’t have a lot of things, I am not rich but living a simple lifestyle have nothing to do with being poor or rich. It simply means you are content with living with less, not depending on things to make you happy. If you take the time to look you will find that you have more than you think. To conclude, I chose to start living a minimalist lifestyle to help me focus on relationships and not materialism, and to create an stress-free environment for my family. Do I still own stuff, absolutely, but they no longer own me. Check out my pictures goal for our home.

have you consider living a minimalist lifestyle? comment below.

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Goodness, Faithfulness, and Kindness.

What is the reason behind your deeds or works? do you do it out of righteousness, obligation, or personal code ? This week we are talking about goodness, faithfulness and kindness to end our fruit of the Spirit series. Let’s dig in.

Goodness

Whenever I think of the word goodness, I think of psalm 23, “surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life”. I used to think goodness was all about feeling good, you know the warm feeling you have inside when you think about God, but as I reflect on this week fruit, I realize how wrong I was. Goodness is not a feeling but instead it is when your deeds or works is motivated by righteousness. You can summarize it with this phrase ” holiness in action”, or in plain language you become a blessing to someone. Knowing the true meaning of this fruit put the right perspective when reading the psalms or any verses in the Bible because I know the intention of God’s heart and it is never to harm me but to bless me. Example of goodness is giving to the poor, feeding the homeless, confronting someone about sin, praying for the enemy and visiting the sick.

Faithfulness

If you can’t be faithful to God, then you most likely can’t be faithful with others on earth. Faithfulness has to do with having faith in God, consistency, following through with what you believe and not giving up in the hard time. We can’t be faithful to God with our own strength or will, but if we trust in him, the Holy Spirit will help us to be faithful. Once you understand the importance of faithfulness to God then the Holy Spirit can help you to be faithful to others. 1Thessalonians 5:24 says, “He who calls you is faithful, who will also do it” . So we never have to worry about if God can do it, because He will.

Kindness

Are you a kind person? well, I just realize I am not as kind as I claim to be when studying for this week fruit. God has revealed to me that kindness doesn’t mean having a nice attitude or to be pleasant. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s important to be nice and pleasant but these things don’t always mean that you are useful. Smiling when the person is struggling to open the door does not reflect your kindness. Driving by when you see your friends standing in the rain waiting for the bus will not reflect “your kind heart”. Kindness is the compassion we have for others that lead us to be useful, to do something to help them with no expectation. God showed his kindness when he provided salvation to us because it was free. God’s kindness protects us when we are afraid, as he wraps us up under his wing, and he helps us breathe when we’re being kicked by life’s trouble. God’s kindness lead us to repentance. Because of the Kindness God has towards us, we can learn how to be kind to others.

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Pour in, Pour out.

We all wake up differently, some wake up tired from a long night or not enough sleep,  while others wake up refresh and renewed. Despite on how we wake up, we all can have peace and joy in our lives. How? You must start with the condition of your heart because that is where peace and joy begin. By answering these two question, you can begin your peace and joy process.   Are you at peace with God through Jesus? and have you made the joy of the Lord your strength to be victorious daily?

watch this video for more information on this week fruit: Peace & Joy.

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Sound the alarm!

Are you a lukewarm Christian? Do you have a relationship with God? does he know you? and are you living a life pleasing to him? I have asked myself those question so many time and during those time I found myself more confuse because of the type of relationship I had with God.

The type of relationship I am referring to is a lukewarm believer, hot and cold as the Bible describe it. This type of relationship with God doesn’t happen overnight, but instead it happens overtime based on the decision you and I make daily. I listed some of the patterns I had to break through to have a better relationship with God, let me know if you can relate.

These are the patterns I had to break through.

  • No one can live a life pleasing to God.—–2nd Peter 1:3 His divine power have given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who has called by his own glory and goodness.

  • The way you know if you have overcome a sin is to go back to it and see if you are tempted by it again. —— James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
  • It’s not that big of deal, God will forgive me——–Hebrew 10:26 If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left.
  • I’m young, I need to enjoy life before I can truly commit my life to God. —-Ecclesiastes 12:1 Don’t let the excitement of youth cause you to forget your Creator. Honor him in your youth before you grow old and say, “Life is not pleasant anymore.”

 

1 John 1:9, KJV: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”.

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The fruit of the Spirit: Gentleness

The fruit of the spirit gentleness is about giving God control over our words, thoughts and understanding. Gentleness doesn’t mean you don’t deal with problems firmly or not able to be stern when you need to be but instead its about balance, knowing when to be kind, merciful or gentle and knowing when to be harsh as we all need tough love. The bible shows us different scenario when Jesus showed gentleness and harsh treatments. As believers we are called to do the same by the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Check out the audio-video on gentleness.

Scriptures for the video:

Matthew 11:29, 18:23-35, 21:5 Philippians 4:5, Proverbs 3:34, Ephesians 4: 14-16, Isaiah 55:9, Job 38:4, 1 John 3:20, Psalm 44:21 2Timothy: 2 24-25, Philippians 1:15-18, John 3:30, Galatians 6:1, 1 Corinthians 4:21

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Apart from me, you can do nothing.

Fruit of the spirit describe the characteristics of believers in the world. So if you are a believer you should be bearing fruit. Just as the same, if you’re not producing fruit then you’re not growing. The bible give us a clear description of the works of the flesh and the fruit of the spirit. Your action will reveal if you are operating in the flesh or in the spirit. The works of the flesh are the evidence of the sinful nature and fruit of the Spirit is the evidence of a born again person.

The Holy Spirit is the only one that can produce fruit in believers life. That happens when you yield to the Holy Spirit, the way Jesus did. Yes! Jesus lived life by the spirit. And I believe you and I can live as he did if we abide in him. Welcome to Fruit of the Spirit Series, the introduction part.

  • The Holy Spirit works in believers life to be more and more like Jesus
  • Transforming believers life to producing fruit
  • Helping believers to pass test and trials to produce fruit

It is God’s plan for you and I to bear fruit, to walk in the same manner as Jesus. I hope this new series will draw you closer to God and bring clarity in your current situation. See you next week for the first study on the fruit of the Spirit. Stay bless 🤪

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Scripture: Galatians 5:22-23

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Drama ends with you or start with you.

I never used to considered myself as an drama person until one of my friend asked me this simple question “why are you always in the middle of the drama” ouch right. In other word, she reminded me that I’ve been there before, being part of the drama and most importantly why am I sill in it. Although I didn’t start this particular drama, it didn’t end with me either. Plain and simple, I didn’t put a stop to it. So ask yourself this question, are you putting a stop to drama or are you adding to it?

Three ways to stop the drama from coming to your door step.

🚨Stop hanging around people who loves drama . I know it’s not easy but part of not adding on top of the drama is also based on your surroundings. Now, I am not saying to rudely tell these people they are horrible human being but instead make a mental notes of who’s who. We know the people in our lives who always have the tea or the latest drama.

🚨 How do you carry yourself? believe it or not people know who to gossip to and who will not entertain it. I am not saying to be disrespecful or rude but people can tell who’s who.

🚨If drama find a way to sneak into your life, don’t add on top of it. Meaning don’t add perhaps something that happened to you 10 years to the story that can add fuel and don’t go tell sam and harry about what you’ve heard.

With all that being said, all these things can’t happen without you going to God in prayer first, to be homest about how you truly feel about drama. And remember you are not alone, I had to do the same thing, that I liked drama, and the excitement it brought me. In this journey, I have learn you can’t be free from something you afraid to admit you like, so be free in Jesus name.

I hope this post is helpful and stay bless.

Galatians 5:15-16 However, if you continually bite and devour one another, beware that you are not consumed by one another. But I say, live by the Spirit and you will not carry out the desires of the flesh.

1 Thessalonians 4:11 Also, make it your goal to live quietly, do your work, and earn your own living, as we ordered you.

Proverbs 26:17 17 Interfering in someone else’s argument
    is as foolish as yanking a dog’s ears.